How To Be An Amazing Stepfather

It was a beautiful Saturday afternoon and Chris was off to bingo. He doesn’t play bingo; he doesn’t even like it.

He volunteers at bingo in order to support Jade’s musical theatre program. 8 hours of volunteering at bingo has provided us with a lot of funny stories.

And every family can use a bit of funny; especially one that develops a little later in life.

When our 2 families met, the blending of our daughters and ourselves was a piece of cake – chocolate for 4 of us and vanilla for 2 of us. Yes, we have 2 daughters who don’t like chocolate! I know… unbelievable really.

When Chris met Jade, he knew instinctively how to create a unique and personal relationship with her. She was in grade 1 and loved to write. Chris, also being a witty and talented writer; developed a strong bond with Jade through their love of writing, often leaving notes for her in random places and always putting one in her lunch box.

Writing led to shared jokes, shared songs, shared stories, and many shared activities. They have designed a world that is their’s together. Understanding who Jade was, they created a system of ” I hate you” which of course means “I love you” and special words that trigger positive happy memories.

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Chris can be a caring and understanding kind of goof ball and this is what Jade loves most. He has dressed up and played the role of a fortune teller for the Harry Potter birthday party, he has played a farmer for the Anne of Green Gables birthday party, he has run a blackjack table for the casino party, he has been the mummy at the Halloween party and he has even worn the pink underwear Jade made him. (The featured picture is of the Christmas they both gave each other underwear!)

Yes, she seems to have him tied around her little finger, the one he used to trim for her since she didn’t trust me to do it.

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They have travelled together, they have played and watched sports together, they have cooked together, together being the key word. Chris, a busy father of 4 girls who travels as part of his job, always makes time for Jade, his stepdaughter. A stepdaughter who is his daughter, no different than our other 3 daughters.

But of all the things they share in common that have created their special bond, ice cream plays the most important role. Both are obsessed with ice cream and Jade has even been known to lick the top of the ice cream in the carton, to prevent Chris from taking any! Yes, this is the kind of weird and wonderful relationship they have developed. They wouldn’t want it any other way.

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28 comments

  1. A wonderful tribute to a great love. Those I Dream of Peace undies are killing me.

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    • lovetotrav · June 12, 2015

      She might not have been too happy to have seen them go up on the blog! It was hilarious as neither knew they were giving each other underwear.

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  2. Kat · June 12, 2015

    What a beautiful post! Step parenting is not easy and your husband and daughter are so lucky to have each other! I’ve seen too many cases where there is a disconnect between people in ‘step’ families.

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  3. njmagas · June 11, 2015

    Wonderful! I acquired a stepfather and stepmother long after I had a real active need for parents in my life, but both of the additions to my family have been great. My brother especially has bonded to our stepfather and it’s really cool watching them hang out together.

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    • lovetotrav · June 11, 2015

      That is so nice. Even as adults, it is wonderful to have older role models in our lives. I am happy for your brother and for you as well.

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  4. Carrie Spate · June 11, 2015

    Just perfect to have come across this today, beautiful, sincerely beautiful! Thanks for sharing! πŸ™‚

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  5. Ally Bean · June 11, 2015

    Sweetness. Both father and daughter. And love of ice cream. Great post.

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  6. WhenInTurkey · June 10, 2015

    Mashallah, what a beautiful family! Many people are not even that fortunate when everyone is blood related. This is so great πŸ™‚

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    • lovetotrav · June 10, 2015

      Thanks so much. We feel blessed to have found each other and become a family.

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  7. LDG luciledegodoy · June 10, 2015

    Beautiful and touching post. I am a stepmother and know that a blended family can be a complex and difficult task. Your family surely nailed it. That speaks volumes about your husband, yourself and the kids. ❀

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    • lovetotrav · June 10, 2015

      Thank you so much for the very kind words Lucile. We do feel blessed to have made it work so well and so easily.

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  8. Cindy · June 10, 2015

    So, so precious. I hope everyone is feeling a little better today. You have a great family🐫 (..and I cannot believe I have a camel emoji..wo)

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    • lovetotrav · June 10, 2015

      Thanks so much Cindy. We are feeling a bit better each day. And I can’t believe you have a camel emoji either!! I love it. πŸ™‚

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  9. joannesisco · June 10, 2015

    What a lovely post. I’m awwww’ing all over the place here. Any girl who can have that kind of special, goofy relationship with her father – step, or otherwise – is truly blessed ❀

    Love all the pictures – but for some undefined reason, I really like the kitchen one.

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    • lovetotrav · June 10, 2015

      Thank you so much! She is blessed to have him in her life as we all are. πŸ™‚ They both make me laugh with their strange sense of humour.

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  10. La Sabrosona · June 10, 2015

    What a gift to have such a loving relationship πŸ™‚ Also no pressure – If you feel like it, I’ve nominated you for this challenge: https://myspanglishfamilia.wordpress.com/2015/06/10/3-day-quote-challenge-1/

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    • lovetotrav · June 10, 2015

      Thank you. It is a gift. And I will do the challenge but now I have to actually turn my brain on 3 times in a row… challenging stuff. πŸ™‚

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      • La Sabrosona · June 10, 2015

        Haha. I did a big shpeel. You can make it as simple or as complicated as you like πŸ™‚

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  11. Allyson · June 10, 2015

    Love Love Love this Blog!! Love Dad, Love Jade and Love you for writing it! Some of these thoughts and pictures bring back some funny memories.

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    • lovetotrav · June 10, 2015

      You are the sweetest Al! We have had quite the ride, our little blended family πŸ™‚ And I am sure we are in for many more interesting and funny adventures.

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      • Allyson · June 10, 2015

        But when are you going to write “How to be an amazing stepmother”?? Or will I need to write that one myself?

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      • lovetotrav · June 10, 2015

        I think we will keep that one top secret πŸ™‚

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  12. Manja Mexi Movie · June 10, 2015

    Priceless πŸ™‚

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